..well From topic for today!
I found this in a internet forum and I -BEG- you to Read it!
It Shows how Important it is to KNOW the organizations you support - not only the ones "Far away and out ther" - but the ones that work in Your Backyard!
Imagine, not even 1% of the donations reach the shelters.
Not Even 1%!!!!!!!
That's why organizations like the one I found today are SO important!
Here it is!
Read it.. and think... and ponder - how many other "help organizations" out there are doing the same thing? How do WE know that the money we give acctually Reaches someone?
A friends son asked that very question as his class was collecting money to build a well "somewhere in Africa".
"How are we to know that it's there? How do we know that they're not just sending us a picture of another well? - WHO - will go down there and watch it being built?"
Now, if a young child, about 9 years of age can see this problem, and have these doubts - how come -WE- grownups don't check up where our money goes...
It's comfy not to.
It's comfy to just tuck a dollar into the colletion vessel and feel like I've done something Good today.
It's comfy.
I can "do good" at macDonalds! Without leaving my safe homezone, and without checking anything up.
Right next to childrens Cancerfund is Humane Societys "help us pay for the FREE spay and neuterprogram".
The vet's are volunteers... and considering that Humane Society have 200 millions in assets.... don't you think they'd be able to spay and neuter animals anyway?
No..
because they're buzy throwing shit where shit shouldn't be thrown.. targeting Farmers. Cattlebreeders - heck, even registered Licenced Dogbreeder.
Not puppymills.
Not the indian rezerves that goes out on "killingsprees" when the dogs are out of control.
Not animalabuse.
They're targeting people who make a living from animals. Or who have breeding as a hobby.
Jisses, they are Targeting Licenced DOGBREEDERS! Come on...
Is that Realy what you want to support?
..so ask yourself - have you done your reading today?
Are you SURE that the money you sent to that poor girl down in Africa.. or to Haiti.. or Thailand acctually Came there?
..or did You fall into the PR-trap of covered truths, lies, moneyscams hid behind the face of someone who Needs help? ..someone that might never get it.
onsdag 3 mars 2010
torsdag 11 februari 2010
And now a follow-up...
I'm just horrible..
We all have the right to dress the way we do, the way we want to. And to speak our minds, I like provocing myself - and others every now and then for the brainexercises..
One thing all women have incommon are the biggest threat towards our selfconfidens and freedom - rape.
Rape, no mater if it's done by someone the woman Don't know, doesn't matter if she's drunk or sober. Doesn't matter wether it's done by the husband, a stranger, a neighbour.
Rape is Rape.
End of story!
There's not greyscale. Wether it's done in the middle of raging war, or in the home behind locked doors... it's the biggest threat women face, everyday.
Sex used as a powertool. To control. To make someone surrender. And it's NEVER the girls/womans fault.
NEVER.
Yet...
if you get raped,
if you were drunk - you were asking for it
If you were dressed sexy - you were asking for it
If you went out flirting/partying on the pub - you were asking for it
..making your husband yeallous - you were asking for it.
That's the way a lot of people will present it. And it's a way some people do LOOK at it.
But it isn't true...
Circumstances doesn't explain the behaviour. It's not an excuse...
We all have the right to dress the way we do, the way we want to. And to speak our minds, I like provocing myself - and others every now and then for the brainexercises..
One thing all women have incommon are the biggest threat towards our selfconfidens and freedom - rape.
Rape, no mater if it's done by someone the woman Don't know, doesn't matter if she's drunk or sober. Doesn't matter wether it's done by the husband, a stranger, a neighbour.
Rape is Rape.
End of story!
There's not greyscale. Wether it's done in the middle of raging war, or in the home behind locked doors... it's the biggest threat women face, everyday.
Sex used as a powertool. To control. To make someone surrender. And it's NEVER the girls/womans fault.
NEVER.
Yet...
if you get raped,
if you were drunk - you were asking for it
If you were dressed sexy - you were asking for it
If you went out flirting/partying on the pub - you were asking for it
..making your husband yeallous - you were asking for it.
That's the way a lot of people will present it. And it's a way some people do LOOK at it.
But it isn't true...
Circumstances doesn't explain the behaviour. It's not an excuse...
tisdag 9 februari 2010
And todays...
MSN Canada...
Valentines day
I'm going to spare you pictures... you can check the link!
But it's black and red dresses, sexy "undies" (omg don't they look horribly uncomfy?) and makeup.
Saint Valentines day is coming up, a day for -love-, for togetherness, for that one special person. To show them how much you care.
Love is about taking a person the way they are. Loving the way they are, appreciating their personality.
So, can someone please explain to me How Come Love changed to sex?
Red lipstick fakes naturs signal of an attracted female, as our bodies respond to the person in front of us our lips will fill with blood, get "juicier" and turn redder - hence the "Femme Fatale" look with bloodred lips. Sparkles in the right places will attract a mans eye, dressing with the right colours (in this case, not dark blue that inhences your authority but Red for passion and will)
To dress, and apply make up in a certain way Will attract men. (And women too..) But, and it's a BIG but, is it necessary? When it's right... do you Realy have to follow the latest fashion, take the same fashion advices as everyone else to "fit" your mans idea of a woman?
I say NO.
And if you -have to- follow all the rules, are you realy with the right one?
Valentines day
Your date is all lined up for Valentine’s Day. But now the big question is, what are you going to wear? Do you go for something sweet, or slightly sexy? It all depends on the type of date you’re having and what look will max out your confidence. Whatever you decide, be sure to take the time to ensure you look amazing.
I'm going to spare you pictures... you can check the link!
But it's black and red dresses, sexy "undies" (omg don't they look horribly uncomfy?) and makeup.
Saint Valentines day is coming up, a day for -love-, for togetherness, for that one special person. To show them how much you care.
Love is about taking a person the way they are. Loving the way they are, appreciating their personality.
So, can someone please explain to me How Come Love changed to sex?
Red lipstick fakes naturs signal of an attracted female, as our bodies respond to the person in front of us our lips will fill with blood, get "juicier" and turn redder - hence the "Femme Fatale" look with bloodred lips. Sparkles in the right places will attract a mans eye, dressing with the right colours (in this case, not dark blue that inhences your authority but Red for passion and will)
To dress, and apply make up in a certain way Will attract men. (And women too..) But, and it's a BIG but, is it necessary? When it's right... do you Realy have to follow the latest fashion, take the same fashion advices as everyone else to "fit" your mans idea of a woman?
I say NO.
And if you -have to- follow all the rules, are you realy with the right one?
söndag 7 februari 2010
Follow-up of arguing with myself..
What I wrote down there, in "First argument" is in a way a social function in our everyday lives that put boys and girls in different places throug childhood - and after that throug adulthood.
BUT isn't it a right to act like a girl, or like a boy? How many are we that use it as an excuse "Oh, but he's a boy!" or "But's I'm a woman, I'm entiteld to nag". Isn't it my Right to dress in pink dresses and wear makeup - no matter my age? And isn't it my husbands right to snuff, lay on the couch and watch old westerns? Well, of course it is!
If I feel the need to dress up in my skimpy little black dress (that's just a creation of my imagination, i don't have one) put some highheels on, fix my hair and paint my nails and go out partying - isn't it my right to do so?
Am I bad for having a sparkly purse?
Or for letting my (again - imagination) daughter try a bra on when she's 6?
NO.
For, as all it is, is a Choice.
And the -Right- to make that choice.
But we have to realize that the choices we make, and what we do in everyday life will affect our children. Now, once again, I'm taking my mother as an example.
I have seen her wearing ballgowns, "Lady in red" like dresses, high heels, fixed up and "womanized" to her teeth. And from my younger years I can not remember my mother -not- wearing nailpolish. She's been a modern, fancy Lady.
Who's been able to change too...
The other part of my mother is the "girl" in a coverall, pitchfork in on hand and a horse in the other. A "girl" that wears out her rubberboots in a matter of months. A "girl" that can fork boxstalls, break horses (teach them to be rode for you who don't know the terms) lung, grounddrive, drive. A "girl" that was our "moped mechanic" in our younger years.
I know she taught me that there's to sides, and choices to be made. She made the choice of being both parts, the hands on working "girl", and the modern, somewhat flashy lady at work. And I know she affected my brothers view on women too.
She's a powerfull woman. For me, she's in Idol. And a teacher. She taught us kids to look further than someones outside, taught us that true strength has nothing to do with fysical appearence. And that know a lot about a lot beats knowing everything about something.
So..
The -right- we all have is to make active choices. And life -is- all about making an active choice. The only thing in life we can't choose is when to die, a natural death I mean by that. From our first breath we can make active choices, but we get affected by others active choices too!
So..
Dressing up like Paris Hilton, teaching our little daughter to "wiggle her bum" at an early age, it's an active choice WE make that Will shape her personality. For a childs personalitys foundation isn't established untill the age of 7.
And I make a choice how to dress, even how to act, depending on the situation around me. Armed with that knowledge thanks to my mother, I can blend in, "fit in". I might not like it, and in most cases I realy Don't. But I can change my appearence, add a few giggles and discuss clothes for hours if needed. I'd Rather have my hair in a mess, wear jeans and a sweatshirt and talk about the dogs or the horses. Discuss the latest "modern" bloodlines. During most social occations when a "female appearance" is to prefer, I wish I was in a barn forking horsepoop.
But I think that teaching our daughters and sons this, we help them from becoming stereotypes. We help them to see deeper than the exteriour of a person, and they'll learn that what you see isn't All that's there.
..and that it IS an active choice. How we shape our children, It's not all tvs fault, nor the videogames, computorgames or their classmates.
It's Ma and Dad.
BUT isn't it a right to act like a girl, or like a boy? How many are we that use it as an excuse "Oh, but he's a boy!" or "But's I'm a woman, I'm entiteld to nag". Isn't it my Right to dress in pink dresses and wear makeup - no matter my age? And isn't it my husbands right to snuff, lay on the couch and watch old westerns? Well, of course it is!
If I feel the need to dress up in my skimpy little black dress (that's just a creation of my imagination, i don't have one) put some highheels on, fix my hair and paint my nails and go out partying - isn't it my right to do so?
Am I bad for having a sparkly purse?
Or for letting my (again - imagination) daughter try a bra on when she's 6?
NO.
For, as all it is, is a Choice.
And the -Right- to make that choice.
But we have to realize that the choices we make, and what we do in everyday life will affect our children. Now, once again, I'm taking my mother as an example.
I have seen her wearing ballgowns, "Lady in red" like dresses, high heels, fixed up and "womanized" to her teeth. And from my younger years I can not remember my mother -not- wearing nailpolish. She's been a modern, fancy Lady.
Who's been able to change too...
The other part of my mother is the "girl" in a coverall, pitchfork in on hand and a horse in the other. A "girl" that wears out her rubberboots in a matter of months. A "girl" that can fork boxstalls, break horses (teach them to be rode for you who don't know the terms) lung, grounddrive, drive. A "girl" that was our "moped mechanic" in our younger years.
I know she taught me that there's to sides, and choices to be made. She made the choice of being both parts, the hands on working "girl", and the modern, somewhat flashy lady at work. And I know she affected my brothers view on women too.
She's a powerfull woman. For me, she's in Idol. And a teacher. She taught us kids to look further than someones outside, taught us that true strength has nothing to do with fysical appearence. And that know a lot about a lot beats knowing everything about something.
So..
The -right- we all have is to make active choices. And life -is- all about making an active choice. The only thing in life we can't choose is when to die, a natural death I mean by that. From our first breath we can make active choices, but we get affected by others active choices too!
So..
Dressing up like Paris Hilton, teaching our little daughter to "wiggle her bum" at an early age, it's an active choice WE make that Will shape her personality. For a childs personalitys foundation isn't established untill the age of 7.
And I make a choice how to dress, even how to act, depending on the situation around me. Armed with that knowledge thanks to my mother, I can blend in, "fit in". I might not like it, and in most cases I realy Don't. But I can change my appearence, add a few giggles and discuss clothes for hours if needed. I'd Rather have my hair in a mess, wear jeans and a sweatshirt and talk about the dogs or the horses. Discuss the latest "modern" bloodlines. During most social occations when a "female appearance" is to prefer, I wish I was in a barn forking horsepoop.
But I think that teaching our daughters and sons this, we help them from becoming stereotypes. We help them to see deeper than the exteriour of a person, and they'll learn that what you see isn't All that's there.
..and that it IS an active choice. How we shape our children, It's not all tvs fault, nor the videogames, computorgames or their classmates.
It's Ma and Dad.
torsdag 4 februari 2010
Ah.. the first argument with myself..
Since I lack someone to argue with... I'll argue with myself!
"Even if there have been significant improvements in the empowerment of women through the process of democratization world wide, still only 10% of the members of the legislative bodies of countries globally are held by women, far less than the 30% quota set by the Economic and Social Council in 1995. Similarly with women’s ability to be employed, in countries world wide women’s ability to participate in decision-making is burdened with various family and home related responsibilities. In some cases this is simply a matter of personal choice, but in many cases this burden is institutional and systematic in nature, and reflects to the overall oppressing attitude towards women."
That is a cut'n'paste from what I am reading at the moment. And it Does NOT make me a happy camper. It's nothing wrong with this quotation - part from the fact that it is but Oh So TRUE!
One of the biggest womens rights issues in industrial countries are the fact that children will take on the view of women as it is presented in their home. Now, if "ma" does everything, brings her husband food by the telly, do the laundry, works fulltime, help the kids with schoolwork - and walk the dog. Not to mention does all the shopping, cleaning and weeding. And "dad" sits by the telly saying little or nothing at all... What does -that- teach our kids? It teaches them the old, overrated genderbased roles in a family. And it -will- affect the kids. When a girl is about 10-12 years old, in an industrial country, she's supposed to go with ma. Shopping, doing dishes, helping with the cooking, folding clothes. What does the son do? Sit by the telly with dad? Have "father and son relationship day" and goes fishing? Bondingtime with dad means: playing basketball. Bondingtime with "ma" means: doing dishes and gossiping about who's dating who in school.
The roles based on genders start at an early age. Makeup as gifts for the young daughter, and a Tractor for the boy. A cellphone for the girl, a toolkit for the boy. A pink dress with laces for the girl, a baseballcap and a baseballbat for the boy.
Now, don't come and tell me that That isn't stating the genderbased familyroles at an early age!
A "good girl" don't curse. A "Good girl" don't spit. A "Good girl" keeps her knees together and wear skirts, even when it's way below zero. A "Good girl" wears makeup, a "Good girl" does this and does that.
While a boy is NOT allowed to wear skirts (oh my god, someone might think he's GAY!) a Good Boy will whack someone who whacked him. Let me ask you - how many know of parents that taught their sons to fistfight? I know a bunch... How many of you know a GIRL that got the same lesson? I know one - ME. And that was my mother teaching me.
How can we sit and get appauled by women like Paris Hilton on tv - when That is what we Teach our daughters to become?
I'd like to know, how the -heck- we can consider ourselfs EQUAL when we teach our daughters to be manipulative, shallow and to -not- defend themselves?
It all starts with "ma" and "dad".
Thank you Ma for teaching me all the things you've taught me throug the years!
"Even if there have been significant improvements in the empowerment of women through the process of democratization world wide, still only 10% of the members of the legislative bodies of countries globally are held by women, far less than the 30% quota set by the Economic and Social Council in 1995. Similarly with women’s ability to be employed, in countries world wide women’s ability to participate in decision-making is burdened with various family and home related responsibilities. In some cases this is simply a matter of personal choice, but in many cases this burden is institutional and systematic in nature, and reflects to the overall oppressing attitude towards women."
That is a cut'n'paste from what I am reading at the moment. And it Does NOT make me a happy camper. It's nothing wrong with this quotation - part from the fact that it is but Oh So TRUE!
One of the biggest womens rights issues in industrial countries are the fact that children will take on the view of women as it is presented in their home. Now, if "ma" does everything, brings her husband food by the telly, do the laundry, works fulltime, help the kids with schoolwork - and walk the dog. Not to mention does all the shopping, cleaning and weeding. And "dad" sits by the telly saying little or nothing at all... What does -that- teach our kids? It teaches them the old, overrated genderbased roles in a family. And it -will- affect the kids. When a girl is about 10-12 years old, in an industrial country, she's supposed to go with ma. Shopping, doing dishes, helping with the cooking, folding clothes. What does the son do? Sit by the telly with dad? Have "father and son relationship day" and goes fishing? Bondingtime with dad means: playing basketball. Bondingtime with "ma" means: doing dishes and gossiping about who's dating who in school.
The roles based on genders start at an early age. Makeup as gifts for the young daughter, and a Tractor for the boy. A cellphone for the girl, a toolkit for the boy. A pink dress with laces for the girl, a baseballcap and a baseballbat for the boy.
Now, don't come and tell me that That isn't stating the genderbased familyroles at an early age!
A "good girl" don't curse. A "Good girl" don't spit. A "Good girl" keeps her knees together and wear skirts, even when it's way below zero. A "Good girl" wears makeup, a "Good girl" does this and does that.
While a boy is NOT allowed to wear skirts (oh my god, someone might think he's GAY!) a Good Boy will whack someone who whacked him. Let me ask you - how many know of parents that taught their sons to fistfight? I know a bunch... How many of you know a GIRL that got the same lesson? I know one - ME. And that was my mother teaching me.
How can we sit and get appauled by women like Paris Hilton on tv - when That is what we Teach our daughters to become?
I'd like to know, how the -heck- we can consider ourselfs EQUAL when we teach our daughters to be manipulative, shallow and to -not- defend themselves?
It all starts with "ma" and "dad".
Thank you Ma for teaching me all the things you've taught me throug the years!
My view...
So.. here's the schoolblog for my studies at the MKFC, Changemaker course.
You'll be able to follow my studies here, and what ever thoughts might pop up during my readingtime. At the moment I'm trying to catch up and are reading about Womens Rights, there's some scary reading to be done, and some even scarier facts to realize, accept and think about. Female Mutilation for example, it's a horrifying topic and I can't even comprehend the pain those women go throug - if they even survive.
“During times of armed conflict and the collapse of communities,
the role of women is crucial. They often work to preserve social order
in the midst of armed and other conflicts. Women make an important
but often unrecognized contribution as peace educators
both in their families and in their societies”.
- UN 1995 [a]
You'll be able to follow my studies here, and what ever thoughts might pop up during my readingtime. At the moment I'm trying to catch up and are reading about Womens Rights, there's some scary reading to be done, and some even scarier facts to realize, accept and think about. Female Mutilation for example, it's a horrifying topic and I can't even comprehend the pain those women go throug - if they even survive.
“During times of armed conflict and the collapse of communities,
the role of women is crucial. They often work to preserve social order
in the midst of armed and other conflicts. Women make an important
but often unrecognized contribution as peace educators
both in their families and in their societies”.
- UN 1995 [a]
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